I was having a chat with a close friend who attended a wedding function of an ex-royal family (in India). The ancestors of this particular royal family were terrible people and were infamous for the tortures they used to inflict on their subjects during the Raj. And they never apologized for those barbaric acts of their ancestors. I hate the fact that they enjoy all the wealth of their ancestors without owning the bad-karmas! My friend mentioned that the host family was not so bad, actually. This conversation made me suddenly realize something fundamental.
No human is actually bad when we interact with them in close proximity (to their heart). (I am using the word "they" as a singular-gender-neutral adjective.)
The core human.....flesh and blood....primal emotions and feelings......that human is simple and very likeable by everyone.
When that human puts on a hat and adds a tag (be it boy/girl or rich/poor or Indian/American/German or Metal-fan/Classical-fan, etc.) they, immediately, attract some humans and repel some others. The more hats that human puts on, the more tags are added. With more tags, more groups of humans start liking or disliking them and they start liking and disliking others accordingly.
Soon, the emotions evoked are not just limited to hate and love. More the number of hats one puts on more complex the hat stack becomes. This, in turn, gives rise to all sorts of complex emotions between humans.
Conclusion: If you want to love all then try to put off your hats one by one. If you want to like someone then try to look at them without all their hats.
