sudhansu: Control the controllable, don't worry about the uncontrollable
me: this is a good thing, where you learn it from?
sudhansu: Coach of one IPL team told, "we try to play with new youngster, so that they can play with confidence and give their best"! Hence I thought, we too should give the best shot of whatever is with us.
me: I feel we all give our best shot all the time. In the given conditions anyone of would have acted the same way as somebody else acted. Knowingly why should someone take the second best option? Better or worse; whatever we did was the best we could have done.
sudhansu: I think if one has the "striving for better" attitude, that's the best.
me: But the attitude also wont come to all! Because of history, past, and breeding etc.
sudhansu: Who so ever has not got the attitude, haven't yet realized his best.
me: who defines the "best"?
sudhansu: he Himself
me: If he himself defined the best, then why did he not work for it?
sudhansu: If he thinks later that he could have done that way or this way...means that that was not his whole hearted effort.
me: Once it is "later" its all done! Exactly at that instant he did not do it. Thinking of it "later" is like commenting on cricket live matches: the player should have played like this or should have taken that shot etc.
sudhansu: That's how he learns, next time he knows where he did the mistake.
me: Yes thats all fine; but at a particular instant still he is doing his best.
Lets say i am short tempered. After a spree of anger i think i shoud not have got angry. Then I can do meditation etc etc. But at that moment i did not do anything wrong!
When air flows through leaves no one says its right or wrong; I think our actions are like that.
Each moment we do the best. Even a dog wont take the second best path if he knew tat its the 2nd best.
sudhansu: If he knows that it's the best, then he should gracefully accept the results of his action.... and he understands everything he is going through is for his actions only... and... that's his best action
me: Yes
sudhansu: Then he is always happy!
me: Happy... may be may not be!
But he is certinly not unhappy
sudhansu: Is it, then there shouldn't be any sorrow and happiness!!Some are in that state, but many are not... they feel sad,
me: Yes; but surprisingly we all can be happy... somewhere I read "if u want to be happy, be".
sudhansu: I read somewhere that we are naturally all happy but we created misery around us.
me: That too is a problematic thing! Its basically blaming us, which i don't feel comfortable with!
But one thing I marked: life is interesting :)
sudhansu: People are living as rich and the poor. There must be something. Otherwise all the poor would have drowned in indian Ocean!
me: still they live! Why they live?
sudhansu: Because life is interesting!
me: yes :)
Because we think that their life is not worth living! But that may be true for us; not for them! Even a daily beggar with one eye goes on living...what for?
sudhansu: we have taken so much of a burden to think about others lives rather than ours
our standard is by our means
me: I think yes; this is a good phrase "life is interesting"; I cant say life is blissful or bad or good... yes... life really is interesting! Sometimes i feel very much amused; so much so tat i wish i could live 1000 years just observing life and people and creation :)
sudhansu: But there are 1000 lives around you every year!
me: yes :) That bargain is also fine with me; if i could live all the lives at a time...
sudhansu: that's equivant to 1000 years!
me: 1000 lives either in space or time :) ... Yes; very interesting concept! Great!!
